Self Improvement

Bullies Not Allowed!

admin — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:47:00 +0000

You probably think that only children suffer from bullying. Wrong — even adults are subjected to bullying. Consider this scenario: a group in your office wants to have casual drinks every Friday night but you don’t want to join. At first, you get cajoled into joining.

If you refuse again, then you get the teasing for your ‘holier-than-thou’ attitude. If you stick by your decision, then you’ll probably get the cold or silent treatment. Worse is the guilt tripping where you’ll be accused of ruining the company morale! You’ll end up getting the pressure to join just to avoid any more of this treatment. That’s bullying.

It happens even outside the workplace. School committees or fund raising community activities, for example, where you don’t get a choice on what you want to do. Sometimes a friend or a relative volunteer you for work without even consulting you first. In both cases, you are forced to work because the guilt trip will be worse when it comes to people you have a relationship with. That’s bullying.

More Time Management Techniques

admin — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 06:56:00 +0000

Here are a few more techniques. Easier said than done

3. Act. Do not procrastinate.

All your dreams, plans and goals are worthless if you don’t act on them. Your ideals, no matter how lofty, will not come to fruition if you remain rooted to where you are.

While it is true that you have a tendency, like the rest of nature, to follow the line of least resistance in surviving this challenging world, you can evolve and turn out to be way stronger than you once were. Say goodbye to stalls.

Stop making alibis. Kick those enumerable excuses that hinders you from becoming a better person. Act now.

4. Tackle the toughest assignments first.

When you have two or more projects to finish, try to accomplish the more difficult one first before proceeding to the next. In that way, your mind will be clearer and you will get through it more quickly.

Personal and Professional Attitude

admin — Thu, 15 May 2008 22:42:00 +0000

A professional should separate his/her personal feelings when it comes to business.

Our natural inclination is to try and get along with everybody but in business, teamwork and friendships don’t always come together. You must be able to separate your personal relationship from that of your function as a co-worker. Much more so, if you are a supervisor or manager.

The primary goal should always be on how the business will benefit or get affected by your work and/or your group’s work. So you must draw a line on what you can allow as a friend from what you have to do as a professional.

For example, your work is getting affected by another employee who happens to be your friend. You might try talking to him first as a friend but if the situation does not improve and the damage is spreading, you have to bring up the matter to a superior officer. You can’t cover for him anymore; it’s not right. Remember the line of friendship and your job. That’s what a professional should do.

There will be times when you will be called to task or be given more work than what you were expecting. Being a professional means that you must not take this as an attack on you personally. It’s not you, it’s the job. Use the lesson to improve yourself instead of delving in pity. That’s what a professional should do.

Dealing with Irritation

admin — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 10:59:00 +0000

We’ve all been in situations where irritating things or people can get you to start gritting your teeth to hold your temper in check. First, it’s bad for your teeth when you do that, so take pity and stop it. However, it’s also not good for you to bottle up that irritation. Here are some tips to deal with your irritation without committing murder:

Say it out loud

Expressing yourself allows you to let the irritation flow out. If you’re dealing with a pesky sales call for example, tell the person that you are getting irritated with his call and tell him your decision (or lack of it) for the time being and ask him not to bother you again.

Sometimes, all it takes is for the other person to hear that and he’ll stop. If it’s an irritating customer or a co-worker or boss and you can’t say anything to his/her face, get a trusted friend to talk about it after work.

Your friend can either choose to be just a sounding board or someone to bounce ideas with and give you good advice. Either way, you’ll eventually feel the irritation fade away and you’ll be able to think clearer. Letting it out means you can let go of it.

Physical Activity to Overcome Irritation

admin — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 10:59:00 +0000

Terribly irritated with something?

Do something physical

When the situation calls for discretion and blasting the other person is impossible, do something away from the person or situation.

One immediate and highly effective strategy is to breathe in and out. You can also walk the irritation off.

Find an empty room or storage area and start screaming out your frustration.

Some people drink water and focus on the liquid’s cold effect to douse hot heads. Eating also gets the same result.

Squeeze balls are also handy gadgets to work out tempers. Any physical action you do lets you transfer energies.

Instead of getting all hot and bothered, your mind can focus on something else to do. It will be like talking about it but this time using your body to ease out the anger inside you.

Be a Professional

admin — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 10:59:00 +0000

You are, at any given time, a son/daughter, sibling, parent or friend to someone else and as such, you carry on a ‘role’ that suits your relationship. When you work for someone or with someone, you are expected to put on a different persona other than these existing ones – that of being a professional. It is not as easy to be one though as being a professional doesn’t come naturally.

Being a professional means that you carry a responsibility given by the company. It trusts you to do your job and to do it the best way that you can. Deadlines should be met. Work should be beyond reproach. Attitude and PR should always conform to the company’s standard. Keep this as a mantra whenever you have to do work regardless of your personal feelings.

Say for example, your job is to answer questions on your company products and a customer kept on badgering you with endless questions on it. You have to be patient and answer the questions until the customer is satisfied; that’s part of your job. Retain a grip on your temper and find ways to keep your cool even if you feel like bashing the person’s head with a pipe. That’s what a professional should do.

How to Succeed in Whatever Field

admin — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 22:59:58 +0000

Success is a goal you undeniably want to strive for in life. As with everyone else, you would like a piece of the good life. You would want to rise above your capacities and drive yourself to the best you can possibly reach.

In life, there are so many ways to get to your dreams. You may want to consult Feng Shui experts. You may want to consult astrological charts. You may turn to God. You may turn to creative imagery to get what you want. However you would like to build your personal pillar of success, I believe that there are constants and absolutes. A good, solid foundation is a constant in building any sturdy edifice. Thus, it is essential that there be a strong foundation in the construction of your personal pillar of success.

Integrity, no matter what your religious beliefs are, is the bedrock of all transactions.

Integrity and Self Improvement?

admin — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 22:59:58 +0000

Why would you want to deal with things with integrity?

Well, forming relationships is a must if you are in pursuit of success; and of course you would like to take good care of these relationships.

Integrity builds trust, which is an essential relationship lubricant.

One does not need studies to confirm that clients would go back to someone with whom they were able to deal with smoothly and stuck to his end of the deal.

The currency of life is “Quid Pro Quo”, or “give me as I would give you”. So many business relationships have been severed because a party did not meet the end of the deal, or cheated the other of what was his due.

As you sever more and more relationships through the lack of integrity, you will encourage the crumbling of your pillar of success.

Fear and Learned Response

admin — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 06:06:00 +0000

Your fears, as mentioned by experts, are learned response but they can be unlearned. Doctors may expose you to your respective fears that may take place in real life or in your imagination. While there are those who will encourage you to talk with others who have the same fears as you have.

Yet the best and the most effective therapy in treating fears are not those that doctors can offer. Even the most erudite doctor (may he be a graduate of am internationally acclaimed medicine school, or has received prestigious awards) cannot give you this kind treatment because no one but YOURSELF can only give you this.

No one but yourself can cure your fears. If you are unwilling to be cured, then your fears will continue to linger. They will never leave your side, shocking you day by day, even in the quietness of your sleep.

Brazen Up Your Fears!

admin — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 04:15:00 +0000

Admit it. You are afraid. There are things that give you goose bumps, as well as make your body tremble, your palms sweaty, and your heartbeats faster. These things do not necessarily mean to be real, because oftentimes, you fear things that are mere creations of your ingenious imagination.

Fears or anxiety, according to Freud, is a basic emotion that influences everyone’s life from earliest childhood. This influence shapes your life, as you grow old. Usually, the things that you fear in your childhood are still the same things that you fear even when you get older. This only suggests that it is never easy to conquer fears especially if you don’t have a willing heart and a focused mind.

Fears vary. Some of you may fear imagined objects; some fear real things and activities; and some have particular dreads (phobias). While there are some who are weird enough that they just suddenly lose out of control of their actions and reasons. You commonly know these startling out-of-the-blue-attacks of intense fear or terror as panic disorders. These usually crop up when we face danger, but sometimes, they occur without obvious reason. If that happens, you have to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist for you may be having a mental illness. Your doctor may recommend to you effective treatments like psychotherapy and behavior therapy.